update. i may know why she has not been getting full. when she came to my room at night, i thought she was scared. when she bit me, i thought she was stealing food. when she refused separate rooms, i thought she needed boundaries. it is possible i have been rejecting her actual needs for weeks while congratulating myself for being responsible. question: if intimacy energy is medically necessary, where is the line for a caretaker who is not trying to take advantage? she is not my property. she is also still hungry. this is worse than finals.