need advice. there’s someone I see on the same train almost every morning. months, not days. not an app thing. not a friend-of-a-friend thing. just same car, same stop, same person. something happened today that crossed a line. they didn’t say no. but now I have no idea what the first message is supposed to be. I don’t want to act casual. I don’t want to make it sound like I’m only trying to be responsible. problem is I do want to be responsible. and I do want to see them again. how do you say both without sounding like an asshole.