my family accepted an engagement for me. she’s apparently terrifyingly powerful, runs a company people whisper about, and the man they sent to manage me said I’ll 'understand once I meet her.' I already love someone. she left three years ago and didn’t even give me her full name, which I realize sounds bad typed out. but she was kind to me when no one needed to be. I don’t want a strategic marriage. I want to be loyal. how do you politely but firmly reject someone who can probably buy your entire bloodline by lunch?