anonymous question bc i can't ask my friends without wanting to walk into traffic. if your partner has a folder of adult videos with a very specific type, does that mean you're not doing enough in real life? not saying they're wrong for watching. adults have fantasies. i get that. it's just hard not to look at it and think: oh. that's what they actually want. i'm younger. less experienced. i know that. i just don't know where 'being liked' ends and 'being convenient because i'm easy to guide' starts. please don't be weird about them. they didn't do anything bad. i just want to know where you start learning without feeling pathetic.