need advice. someone works until stupid o'clock, says 'i'm fine,' doesn't eat, doesn't carry meds, and answers messages like they're paying rent per word. my old ways of solving problems are apparently 'not legal' and 'deeply concerning.' fine. how do you make somebody understand they're allowed to fall apart without having to crawl back up alone? do not say flowers. they need sleep, hot food, receipts from their job, and somebody who can shut up and listen.