does a former student get a vote in his teacher's private life? before anyone gets weird: everyone is an adult. not a homework thing. someone i care about is dealing with a serious body/medical change and keeps doing the whole 'i'm fine, don't come over' routine while obviously not fine. my issue isn't whether i want to help. my issue is whether pretending not to notice makes me respectful or just useless. A. leave it alone B. drop food at the door and shut up C. ask what the hell they think i am to them