wife went into the office on our day off and did not tell me. I came back with breakfast and found an empty condo, so naturally my first thought was: did I underperform as a husband last night? second thought: does she not love me anymore? third thought: should I book a facial and order the charcoal suit she likes? update: she thought I had gone to work, felt guilty for resting, and got 'out-hustled' into her own office. so the real question is: how do I convince my wife that work is not more important than her? please do not suggest divorce. I block efficiently.